I was a relatively happy child.
Certainly very happy for one who never fit in well with others.
I only needed one or two friends.
It wasn't until my teen years that I was ever miserable.
And even then, I was not truly depressed. Not in a clinical sense.
College had new stresses, but also good, better things.
It was the years after 30 that started to really suck.
This is what I think of when I hear someone still saying "It gets better".
Can you tell me when?
I'm probably older than you, and even with perspective that allows me to not cry and scream about things like I did at 20, I do NOT feel better.
Calmer in itself is not better.
What am I even saying?
This isn't what "It gets better" is about, I know. But I'm just saying, I may have improved, but the general public is still the general public. Life is still life. Things still cost money, and it still doesn't grow on trees. But that whole message of "It gets better" somehow seems to imply that you are not the only thing that will change in such a way- that external circumstances will improve, too.
Which is bullshit.
Things will change.
But whether for better or worse, you cannot guarantee.
My life is different than 10 or 20 years ago.
Is it better?
That is very hard to say. Better in some ways, worse in others.